Book cont'd

Numberone. Come to grips with the fact that even though you may be a great cook, a great mom and a great house cleaner, that might NOT actually make you happy... I always used to think that if you tried hard enough and did a good job at whatever you were supposed to do, and it all came out ok, then the happiness that came from giving it your best shot was enough to make your day. Well... Surprise!!! It isn't. Homemaking is just not my cup of tea... It's not something that's "so easy to do that anyone can do it". I can honestly say that I have given housewifing my best effort. And I can honestly say that I am not happy.

Numbertwo. Come to grips with the non-understandable fact that you are unhappy with homemaking even though it's a shared job. Understand your guilt at not being happy even if you are not carrying the load alone, even if it is equally and justly divided in two. Even if your husband is very untypical and a great homemaker who enjoys homemaking. Understand you have the right to this unhappiness, understand it's ok to be selfish sometimes. Cause that's all it is. Downright selfishness.